Index

A

acceptance, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME

acceptance stage, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
accepting your child, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
bargaining stage, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
denial stage, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
depression stage, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
stages, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT
stories, PATRICIA ROBERTS

acting like a boy or girl, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

gender assignment, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

adolescence, Adolescence (11-18)

dating, Adolescence (11-18)
defined, Adolescence (11-18)
feelings about sexual orientation, Adolescence (11-18)
friends, Adolescence (11-18)
independence, Adolescence (11-18)
meeting others with DSD, Adolescence (11-18)
moods, Adolescence (11-18)
peer support, Adolescence (11-18)
physical changes, Adolescence (11-18)
privacy, Adolescence (11-18)
sex education, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about adoption, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about DSD, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about fertility, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about gender, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about sexuality, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about surgery, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about teasing, Adolescence (11-18)
teasing, Adolescence (11-18)
trying to fit in, Adolescence (11-18)

adoption, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

and truth-telling, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
talking about with adolescents, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about with pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

adrenal glands, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

adults with DSD

stories, INTRODUCTION TO THIS MATERIAL

age-appropriate, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

ages 6-11

development, AGES 6-11 YEARS
friends, AGES 6-11 YEARS
meeting others with DSD, AGES 6-11 YEARS
peer support, AGES 6-11 YEARS
questions about medical treatment, AGES 6-11 YEARS
questions about surgery, AGES 6-11 YEARS
separation from parents, AGES 6-11 YEARS
talking about surgery, AGES 6-11 YEARS

American Academy of Pediatrics

policy on consent, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
policy on elective procedures, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

androgens, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

androgyny

stories, DAVID CAMERON

anger, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME

animation

genital development, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS

anti-Mullerian hormone, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

articles about DSD, JOURNAL AND MAGAZINE ARTICLES

B

bathrooms

and privacy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

bifid scrotum, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

birth

stories, PATRICIA ROBERTS

bisexual (see sexual orientation)

blaming, WHAT CAUSES DSD?

bodies

toddler’s curiosity about, AGES 12-36 MONTHS

body differences

explaining to pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
explaining to toddlers, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
fears about dating, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
talking about with pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

books

about DSD, BOOKS DEVOTED TO DSD ISSUES
about parenting, GENERAL PARENTING
about sex education, SEX EDUCATION FOR YOUR CHILD

boy

clothing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
toys, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

bullying (see teasing)

school, Adolescence (11-18)

C

cancer risks

and gonads, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
stories, PATRICIA ROBERTS

causes

of DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

changing gender (see gender change)

childcare providers

explaining DSD, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS

child’s feelings

talking through, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD

chordee, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

chromosomes, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

clothing

and gender identity, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
for boy or girl, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

common questions, WELCOME TO PARENTS

conception, WHAT ARE DSD?

and sex development, What are DSD?

cosmetic, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

counseling

about gender issues, FINDING A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST
and teasing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
asking doctor for referrals, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
for child, THINGS TO DO AND THINGS TO AVOID
how to find counselor, FINDING A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST
who should counsel, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

D

dating

fears about sexuality, Adolescence (11-18)

decision-making

about surgeries, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and peer support, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
child’s body, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
surgeries, ROZ WEISS, ANA M. LIPPERT

depression, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

development

ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS
toddler years, AGES 12-36 MONTHS

diagnosis, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

asking doctor about, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
late, ANA M. LIPPERT
unknown, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

dihydrotestosterone, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

disorder of sex development, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

doctor visits

and privacy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
explaining to child, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
preparing for, PREPARING FOR A MEDICAL APPOINTMENT
questions to ask, PREPARING FOR A MEDICAL APPOINTMENT

doctors

asking for peer support, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
helping to learn about DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
questions to ask, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
talking with, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

drawings

genital development, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS
genital variation, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS

DSD

and fertility, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and gender, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS
and going home from hospital, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
and guilt, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and hospital, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
and ideas about sin, WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE WHO MAY THINK DSD ARE SINFUL
and immediate medical problems, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
and puberty, PUBERTY
and religious beliefs, WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE WHO MAY THINK DSD ARE SINFUL
and sexual orientation, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS, Are people with DSD gay?
defined, WHAT ARE DSD?
examples, What are a few examples of DSD?
explained, What are DSD?
explaining to pre-schooler, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
frequency, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!, How common are DSD?
genetic counseling, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
helping doctor learn about, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
inherited, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
similar to other conditions, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
talking about, INTRODUCTION
talking to friends and family, WHAT TO TELL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IN GENERAL

DSD causes, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

chemicals, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
environmental, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
genes, WHAT CAUSES DSD?
inherited, WHAT CAUSES DSD?
run in families, WHAT CAUSES DSD?
sex chromosomes, WHAT CAUSES DSD?
unknown, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

E

elective, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

elective medical procedures, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

American Academy of Pediatrics policy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
hormone treatment, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
irreversible, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
stories, GINNY HAYES
waiting so child can decide, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

elective surgeries, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

estrogens, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

evidence

and deciding about surgeries, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

F

family and friends

explaining DSD, WHAT TO TELL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IN GENERAL
explaining gender assignment, WHAT TO TELL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IN GENERAL
secrets, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
shocked reaction to DSD, WHAT TO TELL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IN GENERAL

family relationships

and sexuality, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

fears about sexuality

dating, Adolescence (11-18)

feeling loss, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME

feeling normal, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME

feeling sad

about being different, AGES 6-11 YEARS

feeling strong, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT

feeling weak, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT

feelings about sexual orientation

adolescence, Adolescence (11-18)

feelings of betrayal

and secrecy, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE

fertility

and DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and gonadal surgery, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and reproductive technology, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
stories, GINNY HAYES, BEV MILL, MAX AND TAMARA BECK
talking about with adolecents, Adolescence (11-18)
talking about with pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

frequency

of DSD, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!, How common are DSD?

friends

adolescents, Adolescence (11-18)
ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS
pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

G

gay (see sexual orientation)

gender, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

complex, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE, DAVID CAMERON
defined, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE
difference from sex, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE

gender assignment, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

acting like a boy or a girl, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and surgery, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
asking doctor about, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
correct or incorrect, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS, ROZ WEISS
defined, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE
delayed, IF YOUR NEWBORN’S GENDER ASSIGNMENT IS DELAYED
explaining to family and friends, WHAT TO TELL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IN GENERAL
incorrect, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS
stories, ROZ WEISS, HERBERTA SMITH

gender change, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

stories, HERBERTA SMITH, LYNNELL STEPHANI LONG, MAX AND TAMARA BECK

gender expression, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

gender feelings

stories, DAVID CAMERON

gender identity, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

and clothing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and toddler years, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
and toys, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
causes, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS
defined, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE
development, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
different from expected, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE
different from sex, sexual orientation, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
stories, MICHAEL GRANT
what determines, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

gender identity development

defined, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE

gender issues

and counseling, FINDING A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST

gender role, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

flexibility, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

gender-role socialization

copying, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
defined, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
pre-schooler play, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

genes

and sex development, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, What are DSD?

genetic counseling

and DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

genital appearance

explaining to others, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS
with DSD, WHAT ARE DSD?

genital development, WHAT ARE DSD?

animation, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS
drawings, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS
explained, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS
explaining to child with pictures, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

genital examinations

and child’s stress, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and privacy, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
and shame, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
minimizing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

genital folds, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

genital surgery

explaining to toddlers, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
stories, ANA M. LIPPERT, PATRICIA ROBERTS, HERBERTA SMITH, GINNY HAYES

genital tubercle, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

genital variation

drawings, HOW GENITAL DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS

genitals

and sex development, What are DSD?
averages, WHAT ARE DSD?
doctors taking pictures of, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
explaining to toddlers, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
playing with, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
touching, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

girl

clothing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
toys, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

God

and DSD, WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE WHO MAY THINK DSD ARE SINFUL

going home from hospital

and DSD, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

gonadal ridges, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

gonadal streaks, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

gonadectomy, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

and hormone replacement therapy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and osteoporosis, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

gonads, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

and cancer risks, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and fertility, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and puberty, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and sex development, What are DSD?
delaying puberty, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
surgically removing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
watchful waiting, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

grief

by child, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD
coping, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD
fears about sexuality, Adolescence (11-18)
five stages, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
stories, THEA HILLMAN

guilt, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

gym class

and privacy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

gynecomastia, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

H

helping others, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

honesty (see truth-telling)

hormone treatment

elective, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
stories, CINDY STONE
talking with doctor about, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

hormones, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

and gonadectomy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
puberty, PUBERTY

hospital

and DSD, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

hypospadias

I

inherited DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
intersex, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

J

journaling, Journaling

medical visits, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

K

karyotype, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

L

lab results

getting copies, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

language

about body parts, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
pronouns used in this book, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE

language ability

pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
toddler years, AGES 12-36 MONTHS

locker rooms

and privacy, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

loving your child, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE

M

making good choices (see decision-making)

medical care

keeping good records, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
questions to ask doctors, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

medical examinations

by too many people, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

medical problems of DSD, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

medical procedures

elective, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

medical records

getting copies, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
stories, HERBERTA SMITH

meeting other parents (see peer support)

meeting others with DSD (see peer support)

moral development

toddler years, AGES 12-36 MONTHS

mosaic karyotype, WHAT CAUSES DSD?, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

stories, PATRICIA ROBERTS

Mullerian ducts, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

Mullerian inhibiting substance, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

multidisciplinary clinic, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

multidisciplinary team, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

N

ngegative feelings

about DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

nurses

talking with, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

O

osteoporosis, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

and gonadectomy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

ovaries, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS) (see gonads)

ovotestes, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS) (see gonads)

P

parent-child relationship, INTRODUCTION TO THIS MATERIAL

parent-to-parent groups, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

parenting

and sexual orientation, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

parents

stories, INTRODUCTION TO THIS MATERIAL

pediatric endocrinologist, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

pediatric urologist, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

peer support

asking doctor for, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
contact information, SUPPORT GROUPS AND DIAGNOSIS-SPECIFIC INFORMATION
deciding about medical procedures, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
for adolescents, Adolescence (11-18)
for child, THINGS TO DO AND THINGS TO AVOID
for parents, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS, THINGS TO DO AND THINGS TO AVOID, ROZ WEISS, ESTHER MORRIS LEIDOLF
helping doctor learn about DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
offering to help others, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
stories, GINNY HAYES, CINDY STONE, THEA HILLMAN

photography

of genitals, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

play

and child’s grieving, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD
and toddler years, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
child expressing feelings, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
gender-role socialization, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

playing

being other gender, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

pre-schoolers

acting like a boy or girl, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
and medical exams, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
and play, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
cooperating, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
copying, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
excluding others, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
fantasy and reality, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
friends, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
gender-role socialization, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
language ability, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
physical development, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
playing being other gender, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
playing with genitals, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
questions about bodies, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
separation from parents, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
sharing, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
skill development, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about adoption, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about body differences, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about DSD, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about fertility, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about genital development, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
teasing, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
thinking ability, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
touching own genitals, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

privacy, THINGS TO DO AND THINGS TO AVOID

adolescents, Adolescence (11-18)
and bathrooms, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and doctor visits, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and genital examinations, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
and locker rooms, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and school bathrooms, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS
child’s wishes, INTRODUCTION

protective feelings, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD

psychiatrist (see counseling)

psychologist (see counseling)

puberty, PUBERTY

and child’s wishes, PUBERTY
and gonads, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and sex development, What are DSD?
beginning age, PUBERTY
counseling, PUBERTY
delaying with medicine, PUBERTY, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
hormones, PUBERTY
peer support, PUBERTY
sexual awakening, Adolescence (11-18)
sexual development, PUBERTY

Q

questions to ask doctors, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

R

raphe, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

record keeping

doctor visits, RECORD-KEEPING AND JOURNALING

referrals

for counseling, FINDING A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST
to counselor, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS

religious beliefs and DSD, WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE WHO MAY THINK DSD ARE SINFUL

reproductive technology

and future fertility, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

S

school

and bathroom privacy, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS
bullying, Adolescence (11-18)

scolding

about acting like boy or girl, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)

secondary sex characteristics, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

secrecy, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE

and betrayal, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
and shame, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE, IF YOUR NEWBORN’S GENDER ASSIGNMENT IS DELAYED
and support groups, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
can’t keep secrets, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
compared to adoption, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
secrets hard to keep, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
stories, ROZ WEISS, CINDY STONE, BEV MILL, THEA HILLMAN

secrets

about family members, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE

sense of self

develops in toddler years, AGES 12-36 MONTHS

separation from parents

ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS
parental anxiety, AGES 6-11 YEARS

sex, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

defined, WHAT ARE DSD?, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE
development, WHAT ARE DSD?
different from gender identity, sexual orientation, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
explaining to pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking to child about, AGES 6-11 YEARS

sex chromosomes, WHAT ARE DSD?, WHAT CAUSES DSD?

and sex development, What are DSD?
mosaic karyotype, WHAT CAUSES DSD?

sex development, What are DSD?, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

and genitals, What are DSD?
and gonads, What are DSD?
defined, WHAT ARE DSD?

sex differentiation, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

sex education, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

sex hormones, What are DSD?

defined, WHAT ARE DSD?

sexual abuse

stories, CINDY STONE
talking about, ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS

sexual development

puberty, PUBERTY

sexual feelings

ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS

sexual orientation, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS
and choice, AGES 6-11 YEARS
and DSD, Are people with DSD gay?
and guilt, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
and parenting, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
causes, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS
child’s feelings about, AGES 6-11 YEARS
different from gender idenity, sex, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
not a choice, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
stories, DAVID CAMERON, CINDY STONE
toys, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
what determines, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

sexuality

and family relationships, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
defined, ABOUT THE LANGUAGE USED HERE
development, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS

shame, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD

and genital examinations, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
moving beyond, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT
stories, ROZ WEISS, THEA HILLMAN

shock, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME

showering

and privacy, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

sin

mistaken connection to DSD, WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE WHO MAY THINK DSD ARE SINFUL

social worker, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS) (see counseling)

spouse

feelings about DSD, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

straight (see sexual orientation)

support

for parent, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD
for parent and child, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT

support groups, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD, SUPPORT GROUPS AND DIAGNOSIS-SPECIFIC INFORMATION

surgeries

American Academy of Pediatrics policy, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
and gender assignment, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
asking about evidence, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
asking doctor about, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
cosmetic, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
decision-making, ROZ WEISS, ANA M. LIPPERT
elective, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
experimental, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
making decisions, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
on gonads, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
talking about with pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
thinking about, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
waiting so child can decide, HELPING YOURSELF TO HELP YOUR CHILD, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS, ANA M. LIPPERT

T

talking, SPEAKING ABOUT SHAME, TO TRY TO GET BEYOND IT

about body differences with toddlers, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
about body parts, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
about doctor visits, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
about DSD, INTRODUCTION, THINGS TO DO AND THINGS TO AVOID
about genital development, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
about genital surgery to toddlers, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
about God and DSD, WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE WHO MAY THINK DSD ARE SINFUL
about sex, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
about sex to adolescents, Adolescence (11-18)
about sex, ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS
about surgery ages 6-11, AGES 6-11 YEARS
about surgery with pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
about teasing, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
and healing, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME
to childcare providers, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS
to teachers, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS
with doctor about counseling, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
with doctor about gender assignment, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
with doctor about genital surgery, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
with doctors and nurses, TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD’S MEDICAL CARE PROVIDERS
with spouse, ACCEPTANCE TAKES TIME

teachers

explaining DSD, TIPS ON INTERACTING WITH TEACHERS AND DAYCARE PROVIDERS

teasing, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

adolescence, Adolescence (11-18)
and counseling, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
comforting your child, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
explaining to your child, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
getting help from school, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
ideas for coping, Adolescence (11-18)
pre-schoolers, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about it, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
talking about with adolescents, Adolescence (11-18)

teens (see adolesence)

testes, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS) (see gonads)

testes (prosthetic)

testicles, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS) (see testes)

testosterone, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

toddler years

and body differences, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
and gender identity, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
and language ability, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
and play, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
and thinking ability, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
curiosity about bodies, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
development, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
sense of right and wrong, AGES 12-36 MONTHS
sense of self, AGES 12-36 MONTHS

toys

and gender identity, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS
for boy or girl, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

transitioning gender (see gender change)

truth-telling, THINGS TO DO AND THINGS TO AVOID

about fertility, AGES 3-5 YEARS (PRE-SCHOOLERS)
about sexual issues, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS
adolescents, YOUR LIFE TOGETHER
and healthy development, SECRECY=SHAME, HONESTY=ACCEPTANCE
building strong family bonds, YOUR LIFE TOGETHER
not being ashamed, INTRODUCTION
stories, CINDY STONE, BEV MILL

U

urethral folds, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)
uterus, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

V

videos about DSD, VIDEOS AND TELEVISION BROADCASTS

W

waiting

elective medical procedures, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

watchful waiting

and gonads, ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS

Wolffian ducts, GLOSSARY (EXPLANATION OF TERMS)

words (see language)

worrying

about child’s gender, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS
about child’s sexual orientation, KEY BACKGROUND POINTS


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